Children often find themselves on the receiving end of the negative and costly consequences of a loved one’s addiction. Because of this, they may feel to blame.
We must help them realize the 7 C’s and help them move forward in a positive way. Here’s a closer look at each of the “7 C’s” and how to discuss them with your child:
You didn’t CAUSE it.
Your child didn’t cause you to “lose control”, “say mean things”, or “act in an inappropriate manner”. It’s important for children to understand that they couldn’t prevent your addiction. How you acted when you were under the influence was not reflective of anything your child said or did.
You can’t CURE it.
An addiction is a disease. It doesn’t mean the loved one is a bad person. Explain to your child that recovery takes time and lots of hard work, but it’s helping the loved one to become a happier and healthier person. You can explain some details about treatment and how it works, as well as how specialists are there every step of the way.
You can’t CONTROL it.
When you’re sad or upset, your child will do anything possible to make you feel better. However, when it comes to addiction, your child couldn’t control or stop you from abusing substances. Make sure your child understands that they are not the reason why you used a certain substance. Your addiction was not your child’s fault.
You can take better CARE of yourself.
Make a list with your child on ways they can take care of themselves. For example: children can stay healthy by eating good foods, brushing their teeth and going to bed on time. Encourage your child to help